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I TOLD HIM TO STOP...

Jasmine LopezComment
Photos by: Dylan Cruz

Photos by: Dylan Cruz

Please share your story: : My life as a teenager, people would think I would be out playing with my friends or thinking about what am I going to have for lunch the next day. At the age of 13 I was in a relationship with a 15 year old boy that I thought I could trust. We were just a regular teenage couple calling each other at night and hanging out at the mall. Until the day I lost my virginity to him, I was 14. Once this happened, the controlling started, as well as, the physical and mental abuse. I was the most blinded and naive person. I was thinking to myself, "I am so young to be going through these horrendous things." Then it happened, one night we were in his room and we started kissing, and one thing led to another. I told him to stop and as I was telling him to stop, he was ripping off all my clothes and was doing what he wanted to do with me. At this point I was crying and just asking him to please stop. I never told any one my story. I just let the same thing happen over and over again. At a young age, I did not think, I did not know what to say to any one because I loved him. I was so manipulated by him. Feeling the way I did, I felt like the most dirtiest and unworthiest person. I was with him for 4 years. At the age of 17, I met my now husband and we were just talking at the time. I never told him my story, but he knew I was broken. He asked me one day come to church with me. I went to church and I loved it. God spoke to me, he was healing me. I was getting delivered, and I was baptized that very same year.

How has your story shaped who you are today?:

Today I am a free women. I do not look back, I look forward. I have been married with my husband for 7 years and with 2 beautiful children and one on the way. My life has changed drastically. I am blessed and thank God every day of my life that I did not end up dead or with issues of not being able to have a baby. I am always motivated to be a better person every day.

What compelled you to share your story?

I feel that my story should be selected because there are a lot of young women that go through this obstacle at a very young age and are afraid to speak. I was one of them, I was not able to speak about my abuse and rape that happened in my relationship. Many young women become naive and blinded by what they think is love. I would love to save a life! And give women hope that there is life at the end of the darkness. Speak up and do not be afraid.

What encouraging words would you give to someone who shares a similar story?:

I would let them know that they are the most beautiful young women that God has created. God heals all wounds and never gives up on you. The joy of the lord is your strength. Being strong doesn't mean you have to fight the battle. True strength is being adult enough to walk away from the nonsense, with your head held up high.